In the realm of love

It is so hard for us to trust someone or give love to someone or somebody because we always seek requirements.

“Hindi tayo sanay sa pag-ibig na walang kapalit.”

That’s why we need to pry open this economy of exchange to realize the impossible. In seeing the love that requires the return of love, we already objectify love. Objectifying love gives love limits and making that love not love after all. That is also why; it is only through the conditional that we can experience the unconditional. Pure love is a gift, and when we talk of a gift, it is always already given. Someone doesn’t need to deserve it for it to be given, it is just given. There are no steps to pure love because when there are steps, we are getting back to an economy of exchange. In giving any gift, in our case, not just any other material gift, we need to step out and go beyond the margins, beyond our limits. The conditionality of things allows us to have a glimpse of the unconditional. Risking might make us vulnerable to pain but we could never know what is beyond the possible if we only limit ourselves to what we perceive as possible. It may entail being hurt over and over again but it is part of seeing more of the person you love. In pure love, like the other gifts, there is no sign of equilibrium, no reciprocity; it is never measurable or quantifiable, incomparable, because it is more than that.

Love is more.